Ziting He, Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Intern

Education:

University of Florida Marriage and Family Therapy- IN PROGRESS 

Languages: 

English and Mandarin

At a Glance: 

I’m a graduate student therapist focusing on couples and family counseling. Before starting my master’s program, I spent four years studying social work in Shanghai and interned in a pediatric hematology and oncology department. These professional and personal experiences showed me how powerfully relationships can impact our lives—especially in the face of adversity.

They also inspired my therapy style. I take a humanistic approach, meaning I’ll journey alongside you to discover what truly resonates with you and your goals. My practice is trauma-informed, strength-based, and influenced by IFS (Internal Family Systems), EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy), existential perspectives, and systemic therapy.

Why did you become a therapist? 

In the past few years, I wandered through many worlds: as a medical social work intern in pediatric oncology, a market research analyst, a venture capitalist, and a college instructor. Through these transitions, I realized each choice I made was a step toward discovering who I am. Ultimately, I chose to become a couples and family therapist because I believe relationships lie at the very heart of our well-being—and that, through them, we can find profound healing and growth. I hope to help foster the nurturing, supportive connections that make such growth possible.What can a client expect to experience in session with you? 

What can a client expect to experience in a session with you?

For individuals, you’ll find a non-judgmental, caring environment where we move beyond surface-level behavioral changes. Instead, I want to accompany you on a journey where we will explore your own inner resources, uncover hidden strengths, and lean into “self-leadership”.

 For couples and families, you will still see me being non-judgmental and not taking sides. I will be more direct to help you recognize and modify malfunctioning interaction patterns, while making sure everyone feels safe emotionally and physically. More importantly, I work from a strength-based perspective, meaning we will draw from positive aspects of your relationship, such as love and care, to foster positive changes.

If you could work with on celebrity, who would it be?

Simone de Beauvoir, if she were still alive. From her writings, I sense her open relationship was not always a source of joy, and I wish I could have offered her support through those challenges. Beyond that, I’d love to hear her firsthand thoughts on relationships, identity, social justice, and the human experience—insights that a philosopher and pioneering feminist could share.

How do you spend your free time? 

I’ve been secretly enjoying swing dance—it’s like a mix of mutual improvisation, cardio, and socializing. Sure, it’s a little embarrassing to occasionally resemble a happy octopus in front of others, but it’s also freeing to just enjoy the music and movement and let go of what people might think.

What's your favorite quirk about yourself? 

I’m a connoisseur of so-called “fly restaurants” (苍蝇馆子)—those humble, hole-in-the-wall spots where flavors linger in your memory long after the meal is done. I have an unshakable belief that food is the meaning of life (half-joking, half-serious). There’s nothing quite like the pure therapy of a hot, steamy, delicious meal to bring joy to the soul.

What does social justice mean to you? 

To me, social justice is a lens through which I view the world. As an international student in the U.S., a Chinese woman in Florida, a Fudan alum from a small town, an able-bodied individual, and the daughter of a single mother, I carry with me the weight of intersectionality—the meeting points of privilege and disadvantage. These experiences have sharpened my awareness of systemic inequities and the complex nature of human identity. In therapy, I strive to address social justice by understanding how systems impact individuals and use that understanding to foster healing and self-empowerment.  

How do you believe change happens?

I used to believe “how one encounters reality is a choice.” But through my training and personal challenges, I’ve realized that it takes a lot to have the ability to choose. I think that change begins with the awareness that choice is even possible. This awareness often emerges through weaving together the fragmented parts of ourselves and our life stories. Then, we will begin to see our Self as whole, authentic, and thus, become the author of our lives. I also believe that healthy relationships are the best place for us to practice change, where we find the understanding and support needed to see beyond our limitations.

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教育背景

     •           佛罗里达大学: 婚姻与家庭咨询方向的研究生

     •           复旦大学: 社会工作专业

语言能力

     •           英语

     •           普通话

个人简介

我目前在佛罗里达大学攻读心理咨询的硕士学位，主要研究方向是伴侣与家庭治疗。在开始硕士学习之前，我在复旦进行了四年的社会工作训练，并曾在新华医院儿科血液肿瘤科进行实习。这些经历让我深刻体会到亲密关系对我们生活的巨大影响力，特别是在逆境中所带来的力量与支持。

这些历程也塑造了我的治疗风格。我采用人本主义取向，充分尊重个人的独特性，希望能够一起去发掘真正能触动你、帮助你达成目标的方式。我的实践融合了创伤视角与优势视角，并借鉴了内在家庭系统（IFS）、情绪聚焦治疗（EFT）、存在主义和系统治疗等多种理念。

为什么选择成为治疗师？

在过去几年里，我探索过不同的人生轨迹：曾在儿科血液肿瘤科做过医务社工实习，也当过市场研究分析师、新消费领域风险投资人，甚至还做过大学讲师。在一次次的转变中，我意识到每一段经历都是在帮助我更深地了解自己。最终之所以选择做伴侣与家庭治疗师，是因为我坚信，关系是我们身心健康的核心所在。在和他人的联结中，我们能获得深层次的疗愈与成长。我希望通过自己的工作，帮助人们建立起滋养且互相支持的关系，为个人成长提供一个安全的环境。

治疗时，你会体验到什么？

针对个体来访者

我会提供一个不带评判的、富有同理心的环境，不只停留在表面行为的改变，而是更深入地一起挖掘你内在的资源，发现那些被忽略的力量，并逐步学会用“自我”的力量来面对生活。

针对伴侣与家庭来访者

我仍然会保持中立，不会偏向任何一方。但在保障一个安全的环境的情况下，我会更加直接地指出和调整关系中的互动模式。同时，我十分注重从优势出发，强调爱与关怀的力量，并将其转化为促进积极改变的动力。

如果能为一位名人提供治疗，你会选择谁？

波伏娃。她的作品当中包含了一些她在开放式关系中的复杂情绪和挑战，我希望能够在那些时刻给予她支持。如果真的能和这样一位伟大的哲学家和女性主义先驱交谈，去了解她在关系、自我、社会正义和活着的意义的见解，那可就太酷了！

空闲时间里，你会做什么？

我最近迷上了摇摆舞。虽然有时候跳得乱七八糟，但如果能把别人的想法抛之脑后，只沉浸在音乐中，也是乐事一桩。

你有什么特别的“小怪癖”吗？

我自认为是“苍蝇馆子”的资深爱好者——那种街头巷尾、环境朴实但味道直击人心的小店。对于一个中国胃来说，“美食就是人生意义所在”。没有什么比热气腾腾又美味的一餐更能抚慰心灵、带来简单而纯粹的幸福感了。

你怎么看待社会公平与正义？

在我看来，社会正义是我看待世界的方式。就像世界上每个人一样，我有着多重身份：独自留美的陆本国际生、身处佛罗里达的中国人、单亲家庭中长大的女孩、接受了快乐教育的小镇做题家等等。这些重叠交叉着的身份既是我的优势，也是我的劣势。透过反思每一个身份，我得以更深刻地看到了制度性不公平和个人身份的复杂交织。因为有着这样的觉察，在咨询中，我会格外关注外部环境和社会系统对个人的影响，并运用这种理解，帮助来访者获得更深层次的疗愈与自我赋能。

你觉得改变是怎么发生的？

我曾经认为“人如何面对现实是种个人选择”，但在不断的学习和经历中，我发现“拥有做出选择的能力”并非那么容易。真正的改变始于意识到“自己其实可以有不同的选择”。这种觉察通常伴随着对矛盾的、碎片的自我和生活经历的整合。当我们能看见、理解并接纳一个更完整真实的自己，也就有机会成为自己人生的作者，掌握人生的执笔权。我同样坚信，健康的人际关系是我们尝试改变的最好的地方。因为只有在被理解和支持的氛围里，我们才能真正看见超越当下局限的可能性。